There are millions of single people yearning for a romantic partner who I
sometimes think try a little too hard and can come across a little bit
desperate. We all know that doing something about achieving what you
want makes it far more likely that you'll get it than doing nothing!
However, it is possible to do too much. The danger there is you end up
burning
yourself out, giving up when you don't get immediate desired results
and going back to where you started out, worse than you were before
because your
optimism is gone. Below are some pointers to keep in mind in your search for someone special.
* Yes, it pays to advertise. However, if you tell everyone from your
work colleagues to the person in you're local shop that you're single
you could appear desperate, which is never an attractive quality.I think
its better to confide in a few close friends that you are available to
meet an interesting person if they know someone. Make sure to also tell
them a bit about the qualities that attract you to avoid ending up on a
blind date with Mr boring.
* Work smarter, not harder. Be selective in the
dating sites,
do not put yourself on lots of dating sites as this can also come
across as desperate. When trying new places to socialise,Visit any such
place more than a few times until you're sure it's not for you. Then,
and only then, move on to another one. Flitting from one to another only
wastes your time and tends to be discouraging. You also need the
opportunity to become known at a particular place, so others feel
comfortable approaching you.
* Be proactive. As in the rest of life, just showing up is often not
enough. Attending lots of events and then just standing around when you
get there accomplishes little but wearing yourself out. Choosing a few
events and then putting yourself forward while there is usually a better
plan. Let yourself be known. Approach others. Engage in conversation
with many people, not just the ones you find attractive. Everyone
responds to a friendly person and tends to
shy away
from someone who seems to be only there to hit on a certain select few.
Besides, you'll be practicing your conversational skills.Most of all
make sure you are attending events that you are actually interested in,
otherwise this will show and you could give out the wrong impression.
* Do what you like to do and avoid the rest. Don't go to a Salsa class
if you don't like to dance.When meeting online if writing is not your
forte, avoid long email exchanges and opt for a phone conversation or a
face to face meeting sooner rather than later. Admit your preferences
and indulge them. Meeting new people is play, not work. You need to make
it fun and not a chore.
* If you feel yourself becoming discouraged and repeating yourself take a
breather from socializing and focus on doing something for pure
pleasure, like taking a pottery class or a bus tour of your city. You
might meet someone when you least expect it specifically because you're
not trying too hard to impress and are simply having a good time.
*Always ensure you are on
Heyup dating app, that way no matter
where you are, if you cross paths with someone that you have taken a
shine to, you have the chance to re-connect with them, giving you a
second chance to make a first impression. Lets be honest we all have
those moments when you pass someone in the supermarket and think phwoar
he's nice or get talking to someone on the train and think "if only they
hadn't had to get of at the next stop" because the conversation just
flowed and you felt an instant connection, well with
Heyup, it
doesn't have to end there, you get the chance to to see if there was a
connection.
